The next category on my list was “I want to do” and the
first item was more socializing—not something
my husband craved at all. But I
successfully pulled off an annual Christmas party for people who liked to sing,
and even met one of my best friends that way. Now I need to push myself to do something
similar.
It is so easy to be unsocial. It's something I fall into way too effortlessly, too.
ReplyDeleteIt seems to be well documented that it gets even easier to fall into it the older we get. Certainly one has to make more an effort (join groups) to make friends as we age.
DeleteInteresting. I don't think I would ever put that on a list. I like being unsocial.
ReplyDeleteI was born on the cusp between Aries and Taurus. My Taurus side likes to stay home and hook rugs and make soup, enjoying my domestic solitude. The Aries influence makes me want to perform on stage, or gather everyone around the piano. But overall I'm always searching for community.
DeleteI don't mind online community or being around my few close friends, but meeting new people, especially lots at once, makes me uncomfortable.
DeleteI want and need to be more social. I need to have a bigger circle of friends as I age, as I have no children to care about me. I am a bit shy, and socialising doesn't come naturally to my husband. Disaster! So thanks for the reminder.
ReplyDeleteThose who are still working likely get some social needs met just by having co-workers. Even if you telework, it's possible you spend time every day on the phone. My last job was unsatisfying that way. I worked evenings as the only employee in a university library. I was alone all day and then I went to work and was alone all evening. It took me a couple of years to figure out this wasn't good.
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